The chain spreads!

Many times when a thought flits through my mind...i'm either procrastinating, or dissecting it to bits...the butcher will be ashamed of himself.

When it comes to making decisions, i'm the big NO, NO....MAYBE, OR actually it could be ....so my life normally is a lot more exciting than I think it should be :D. I just have stopped thinking...'cos I might just about start doing the scrutiny again..

When I went over to Ceedy's blog, 'cos I had this bright stars twinkling against his name in my blogroll....I was sent into the think, think think...drum all over again.....

But here I was thinking not why, or where or which...but what is this all about????

there is this tag, he's tagged me with....like a chain mall doing rounds....but since it means spreading love around the blogosphere...I said chal...let me spread it too..( wow!! such a generous soul am I!!! )

And like He himself has said :

this is all about sharing love among bloggers i guess....so there is no place for logic....

Like a tree
spreads it branches,
So shall love
spread its emotions,
one and all
feel it and absorb it.

The love-link tag.The Love-link Tag is another of those Linky Love game where you only have to tag 10 person in one post but still there is no actual limit (you can tag more if you want!).

Once tagged, you have to copy paste the link in this post, and make them grow!Do not delete any of the links and be honest to yourself!copy paste the link in this post, and make them grow!

BennyLiew, RamblingMoo, Mum & Kids In Wonderland, Judelittle, Our mini blogsphere, Rooms in My Heart, http://janiceng.blogspot.com/, ChinNee, Jo-N, LadyJava's Lounge, Strange but True, Mariuca's Perfume Gallery,Meet Uncle J-Uncle J, Farah,aNgRiAniWoRLd,How’s Life Bout,The Three Heroes, Ceedy, prats

So here are my tagged ones ...

Suma

Hershey

compassion unlimited

Anoop

Hip hop grandmom

Joy

Ziah

PS

Keith

Madhu

Tys

preethi

keshi

and here's a small video of Beatles spreading love

Quizzinnaire'd!!!!!!

Suma of Thinking aloud tagged me on this....and yes...its fun doing such tags, which helps you brush out the cobwebs that are forming in your mind....and so I thought, speed test I may not pass, but take it up I sure will...


so here goes my history.....

Last Movie You Saw In A Theater: Considering I have forgotten how movies for pure adults only look or sound in theatres ( courtesy-the 2 brats), this was a treat....when the theatres put up a sign "CHILDREN BELOW 18 NOT ALLOWED" we moms couldn't help but screech with joy...yay!!!!!

Yes it was the over hyped RACE starring Saif ali khan and Bipasha and ....
Loved the songs and loved sitting through the movie and getting to eat the whole tub of popcorn by myself...and drinking just one drink...not having to get up for the in between the movie loo breaks..."sigh" ...That sure was a great stress buster for us 4 moms who had gone to put up our feet...oh yes...


What Book Are You Reading:

Not one but many...don't know how it happened, but I started so many and am just not able to finish any :(. Some just becos I got bored, some because I forgot where I kept the book...so picked up a new one...

Well the list is here:

Pavane : by Keith Roberts

The Glory of Womanhood - discourses by Sri Sathya Sai Baba

Orhan Pamuk's - My name is Red

Gitanjali by Rabindranath Tagore
and of course the customary Mills and Boons... ( those who feel like strangling my neck...go away....its been felt like being strangled by millions so far...heheh )

Favorite Board Game:
Got be Scrabble and another very traditional game called 'Choukabara'...its a game played on 5*5 squares, and can be played by 2-4 players. Its fun and easy. My kids love to play it...

Favorite Magazine:

If I tell you that I love going and sitting in the beauty parlours, barbers and dentists, mostly because of all the rusty ole magazines they have , would you hold it against me????

But I love the Femina, Reader's Digest, Architecture+Digest, Animation Reporter....

Favorite Smells:

The fragrance of the early morning..just can't describe it here...its divine...the smell of the fresh morning dew, with the green of trees and the fresh air..., the smell of "Jasmine" flowers in the evening, the rain kissed earth, babies' breath, smells of the ocean.. curry leaves spluttering in hot ghee tadka, freshly baked cakes...(I should stop now...or else i'll be headed to insanity)

Favorite Sound:
Raindrops falling , the sound sof water...be it at the ocean, waterfalls, or even a simple swimming pool..a baby's gurgle, and my sons voices...especially after they return from school.

Worst Feeling In The World:
Helplessness...this can hit you rock bottom. Feeling of guilt. The feeling you get when you see your parents leave your home ,after they have visited you.

What Is The First Thing You Think Of When You Wake? ::
Oh , I wish I had another few minutes? Is it Idli for breakfast??? Then I can go back to sleep for 5 minutes more...if it isn't "move your butt" or else ......

Favorite Fast Food Place::
Anything that has chaats---Gullu's is on the top of the list.

Future Child's Name:
HUH!!!!!!!!!!! Whose ???? Mine??? No way!!! I'm done with 2...and they have been a handful...
If you so like, i'll name your's , or anyone's , just let me know

Finish This Statement. "If I Had A Lot Of Money I'd...”::
Travel all around the world, and send my parents on such trips too....

Do You Drive Fast? ::
I believe in live and let live...heheh so I let live the other drivers around me...

Do You Sleep With A Stuffed Animal?::
Aren't Homo Sapiens animals?????? ;) After a heavy dinner yes...I do sleep with one lol

Storms-Cool Or Scary? ::
As long as I am not getting hit by them..its very exciting....I love them. They are way too cool

What Was Your First Car?
The first one I drove was a Fiat. But I had a Maruthi 800

Favourite drink: ::
Tea, tea, tea, tea.....ooopsss, sorry, I overdid it....and Lassi...oh yes...and Vodka!

Finish This Statement, "If I Had The Time I Would .....” ::
Learn Kalaripayattu and do theatre.

Do You Eat The Stems On Broccoli?::
I eat anything on a vegetable....stem, roots ,leaf...if its cooked, its inside me.

If You Could Dye Your Hair Any Color, What Would Be Your Choice? :: Burgundy...but knowing I can't defy nature any more...I would prefer it to remain natural....

Name All The Different Cities/Towns You Have Lived In.:
Now I'm so boring.....
Its just Bangalore...if I write bengaluru, would it count as another city????

Favorite Sports To Watch:
Cricket, Gymnastics, Tennis, football, figure skating

One Nice Thing About The Person Who Sent This To You:
She is such a loving and adorable woman....easy going and friendly. I'm so glad I have her as my friend.

What's Under Your Bed?
A carton filled with books and what I am sure is a floor...flat and white :D

Would You Like To Be Born As Yourself Again?
Lol......Of course, without a doubt....

Morning Person Or Night Owl?
Considering I am called 'Gube' by my friends for my ability to work thru nights....night owl yes....but can't sleep through mornings too ....

Over Easy Or Sunny Side Up?
Sunny bunny, and thats for me

Favorite Place To Relax:
The Beach, My mom's house...

Favorite Pie:
I'm scared to put it down, then the cravings will start....
APPLE PIE with lots of whipped cream ..mmmmmmm

Favorite Ice Cream Flavor:
Black current, Rum and Raisin, and the old favourite Vanilla...

Of All The People You Tagged This To, Who's Most Likely To Respond First?

PS ( Please, oh pretty please....)
J from On the rocks....
ceedy : reflect and let us know
Veens....rumble along no gal...for me?
shruthi: Will this help get you out of the bad mood????
C'mon...take it up...

Muchos Gracias!!!

Little things can make you smile and bring that 'serene sigh' back into your life! Yes its true!

The last few weeks have been hectic and a little stressful. I had ranted about it here and had thought it would ease the weight of my mind....and it did. The support I got from all of you shows that i'm not alone here and I can face whatever comes along...I just need to be open to change.


Yesterday, while I was complaining to a friend of mine about how God seemed to be too busy answering every other person's prayers...she said this " Its all in order...maybe he was listening to my prayer today...next time i'll wait ,for you to ask before I do". It was said in humour but there was so much of sincerity in her, it brought a lump to my throat, and then I smiled 'cos it was so cute.

But what gave me the grin was this little strip....sent to me by Ceedy. It was so sweet of him to think of this strip and me...and it made me feel so "puffed up"...oh yes, just like that big mother hen who runs after her lil ones in Tom and Jerry cartoons...Thanks Ceedy!! You sure brought back my silly grin...that had gone on its own vacation.

And what can be seen as coincidence,...a few hours after I read the comment in my blog , I get a mail from Preethi from just a mother of two. And what do I see..., She had written this:
This one was really worth forwarding--Calvin and Hobbes
A big Hi to all the moms,
This one sure struck a chord.
Have a great day.
P


oh yes!! Thanks Preethi...you don't know how good it felt on seeing that. More than the cartoon....it was her thoughts when she sent it across...
I know many forwards get sent....without a blink of an eye...but how many are actually siffed through...and sent to the right persons...

This Lil smarty pants Calvin sure does those small jigs to my heart....oh yes!!! there is that bit of Calvin in me too...and his mom is present in all of us mothers...
and its so heartening to hear him say all those nice things about his mom.. (leaves me with hopes for my son)

Sometimes, there are people you meet across your life...some who leave that imprint, inspite of not treading too hard. They never expect anything in return nor do they ask for that bit of your smile. It takes just a blink of the eye or just a single hi...and there is that connection.
You might never talk with each other regularly, but they are there with the same cheer that you have for them when you meet for a while. I am so blessed to have so many such friends out here...and I must say...I really treasure all of them.




Have you ever felt at peace sometimes...just thinking of someone? Just hearing a hi or even better having spoken to the same person, precisely at the same moment you were thinking of them?? Has there been a moment when a face or name flits past your eyes and you realise you're caught smiling?????

Have you ever said a thank you even if it was silent!? Try it...you'll catch yourself smiling.


PS: Isn't it just like me to forget??!!!!!!
Thanks to all you out here.....this was my 100th post....and it went past me and I hadn't even noticed...aaawww...

Royals skinned!!!

The media all over have glorified the event so much, that I've lost all my thoughts trying to search for what I love in it the most- the sport called cricket!!
Yes, i'm talking of the overhype called IPL.. After the gazillion number of saucy, ketchup dripping reviews, over hyped Mallya event...yes, the terribly thrust in your face -'redskins'....the match though a wash out gave a lot to write about though.
Didn't HE want just that?? I for one am very biased. I was sad by the end of it (SRK being right there didnt lift my spirits at all :( )

A cricket enthusiast...(I might not remember dates and events!) but i'll remember how well matches were fought and how good it was to watch each game years ago.

I remember crowding around the black and white TV set, in those yonder years, where only one or two houses would boast of a set...and the rest of the cheerleaders (yes, it was us , entirely cheering our team on, through prayers, and lucky charms and what nots!)would feverishly finish their tasks at home, bring in their munchies ( yes, it was
mandatory!! ) and come and occupy their respective positions in front of our TV set. Cricket then, was about batsmen, bowlers, and the really interested spectators. The game was played in true spirit. I can rememebr being made to sit in one awkward position just so that the 'luck' would stay with our team!! Who can forget the champagne flowing and the really happy faces when Kapil's devils won the world cup?
Yes years later, we did win a few tournaments too...world cup, etc...but the spirit had changed.

19th - the day the IPL was launched officially, I nearly cried seeing how tortured the real fans of real cricket felt. The cheerleaders stole the show with their skins...wasn't that all they had on ???
The inaugural function was brilliant, so spectacular. I really hope they had stopped at that and started the game as it was meant to be :(

It was star filled...and the spectators were also filled "stars in their eyes" ....drooling over the bollywood and sandalwood stars....Can you imagine, the mind of the players, if they were to play the game watching the backs of all those spectators. It can be spirit-diffusing. I used to admire SRK a lot...but somehow after that day, I was so disappointed. I can not forget how he kept dancing his jig around, and distracted everyone...and how the cops included were staring up at him..

My son was sad too...reason being: When he went to take Shane Warne's autograph..he caught him staring at the 'skins', when he was supposed to be watching cricket and the match. And this they call cricket!!!!!
It was more like 'crik-ed', necks and all :(

For those who want to watch a clip of the ceremony, check here


Disclaimer : These are my own views and whoever wants to sue me....try it...

my eyes!

What do you do, when you feel crawlies all over you???

Well I for one, havent done anything...I know it wont work, cos some other bigger crawlie will creep over you, making you feel like a complete idiot.

Ranting I am, yes!!! reasons are so many...but I dont want to get into the mode of whining all the time..( looks like i've done enough, and not many would want to hear that all the time :( )

All these years, (yes, I've had quite a few adding up on the abacus!) I thought I had some sense, common or rare, it didn't matter. It was there and I walked around head held high, nose down though...I had thought if you wanted something really bad...it would just come to you, you only had to work hard. It had been working pretty well till a few years ago...when suddenly the dream machine that dished out solution to sens(ers) like me, went kaput!!!!

More than a decade old of parenting , put me under a false sense of security that if people around me say "You have such a wonderful son, he's so endearing" means that he is one and I needn't think much. I had done a great job. But my balloon blew out of proportion...and yes, its on the verge of bursting!!!

My son, who's so into cricket and his sports and stuff...has all things going for him. He's a good student, gets good grades. A mom, who is there all the time for him...trying her best to juggle an overly active younger son, endless activities all in one...and getting him to live his dreams un-hurdled (is there a word like that?? )

When his coach told me this one day " He's such a lovely boy, something about him touches me...so hardworking and caring" I looked around ...surely he wasn't talking to me. But he was. That got me thinking....where was I going wrong then??

Why does he get so aggressive when he's with me? I know he's entering the teens next year, but is it so bad? I'm more like a villain in his life. And when you're at the receiving end it sure doesn't look too entertaining, like in the movies...It hurts like hell, knowing that you have not succeeded in making your own happy.
Where do I draw a line between taking care of both with equal ernest and being unfair to either?
The lines blur, cos there isn't one. Any parent who has more than one child knows there are no favourites...they are like 'your eyes', no one is better than the other.
It gets exhausting searching in all directions for answers. Hopefully the answers will fall into my lap like a pack of cards....one after the other...

All I want is to be a good mom, supermom I needn't be..but someone who will not have to think twice before she talks to her son or does something for him..unfettered and fearless.

Flights !!

Each time a bride steps out of her secure warm family, she hopes for just one thing. A safe, loving, and a happy wedded life. Does everyone get what they wish for?...this was one story I had written in response to the prompt at Writer's island . Its over here, and you'll find the answer.